When You Think Of Chasing The Dream - What Do You Think Of?

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There are almost always times in which we feel ourselves dreaming about our perfect life so far away. We may not have an actual picture in mind of what this might look like - but the fixtures are the same. We want to experience something new and exciting. We want to do so with our loved ones, and make friends along the way. We consider that this is the time in which we’ll be much less worried than we are now, or we might feel astonishingly vibrant and creative once more.

Of course, most of these thoughts might come during a particularly dreary morning commute to work, when we’re stuck in traffic on the motorway. But the essence of this perfect life remains to be dreamt of another day. The secret? There’s no reason why you can’t make this dream life your goal. But first you need to shape it from the ether, and try to define just what it might have been telling you. With the following advice, we’d like to try and help:

Don’t Be Too Realistic

Often, dreaming of experiencing something new can lead you down to the dark, hard facts of what you could achieve now. There’s no problem with that, we all consider just how realistic a dream might be. We need to know how to put plans in action, how to consider what the future might hold and if this is even a realistic pursuit in the first place. But if you’re too realistic, you might impede your progress and your chance to dream. Imagination and realism must be married if you hope to move forward. After all, realism to a hilt can be somewhat debilitating. For example, when we head to work in the morning, we know we’re going to be paid at the end of the week or month, depending on your career or salary. We know that money will help us take care of ourselves and our families. But we can often forget to consider the yawning danger we face each day while we try to realize that ambition. There’s a statistical chance we’ll get in a car crash, or that we’ll be let go from work, or that your apartment’s rent could go up and leave you in need of a new place.

For this reason, being too realistic can sometimes lead you to inaction, as you worry about everything that could limit you. But part of dreaming is working hard to overcome those limitations, to get better everyday, and to be more focused in your exploits. For that reason, we would recommend keeping imagination and realism as comfortable bedfellows.

Dream Big

A dream is something that should inform you, that should light a fire under you and motivate you to further progress. It must be something that looks achievable yes, but also something that is ideal. When we say ‘follow your dreams,’ we do not usually mean ‘follow your dreams, but only if boxes X and Y are ticked.’ It’s okay to want to go out of your comfort zone, and to experience something you may never have before. For example, moving abroad with and purchasing 5 years old HDB flat for sale could give you the opportunity to experience a culture you’ve wished to for some time, to get more time abroad, and to completely switch the anchor of your life. Dreaming needs to be something you can aim at and feel challenged by, because then not only realizing the dream keeps you going, but also the enjoyment of the journey. A dream should orient you, not teleport you after all.

This means that you should dream big. Consider what you’d love to do. Live abroad? Write a play? Sing on stage in a packed auditorium? If you’re not too big for your boots now, you might find little value in trying to fill them. That can be a positive mindset to keep at all times.

What’s Right For You & Your Family?

t’s also okay for dreams to change. The ideals you had for your life at ten years old will change heavily by the time you’re eighteen, and likely the same again for thirty. Customizing your dream to what you might find best can help you continually mean that the dream doesn’t feel like an obligation you need to realise, as if some kind of entrapping bucket list option, but something that has real relevance to you right now.

For example, it might be that after a certain point in your current career, you wished to go to culinary school to bolster your skills. But now you realise that instead of trying to jump into the restaurant trade, you’re more than happy specializing in another area of your career and making family your focus. This is just one example, and there’s no real ‘right and wrong’ answers to decide. What matters is how rational it is for your situation, provided, as we said before, you aren’t too realistic and don’t forget to dream big.

Structuring A Life

Earlier, we said your dream might involve singing on stage to a large crowd, or potentially writing a play. But if the achievement is the focus of your pursuit, then you’re much less likely to earn it. What does that mean? Well, let’s take the example of writing a play. Who is more likely to achieve their goals in this field - someone who writes a play knowing they might gain respect and adoration, or perhaps will be able to celebrate and see their work on the stage? Or is it going to be the person who sits inside and writes even when they don’t feel like it, who falls in love with the process, and who has something real to say through their creation? We needn’t patronize you with the answer. While both might attain their end goal, structuring the life of your dreams is important to consider, because we don’t live in one moment, we live many of them over time.

With these tips, chasing the dream is sure to be both more realistic and hold more potential than you realised.



Kirsty McManus