Did We Move Him Out To Soon? | Awareness in Safer Sleep Week
At four month's old and my baby has left us. Flown the coop, left the nest, headed out into the the big wide world - well, the big world of own rooms and big boy cots. I didn't think it would happen quite as quickly as it did, but sometimes needs be. I'd been surrounded by pressure to move Harrison into his own room pretty early on; both myself and my brother had been moved into our own rooms fairly quickly, and my mum made no secret that she felt I should be doing the same with my child. This was mistake number one on her part, as it made me even more determined to keep Harrison in our room until he was 'ready'. The big question here being when a baby is truly ready: The Lullaby Trust recommends that a baby sleeps in their parents room until they reach 6 months old. In my own head, a baby would be ready when they were sleeping through the night, or at least, in some sort of distinct pattern. Either way, Harrison most definitely was not. Overbearing parents and in-laws are the worst, and whilst mine were only offering a suggestion, lack of sleep and a short temper meant that I took this advice as an 'I know your child better than you do' suggestion - and therefore I done everything I could to ignore it. I proclaimed Harrison wasn't ready to sleep in his own room, heck, he didn't sleep at all as it was, the very idea of sauntering back and forth to the nursery every forty minutes was enough to have me entirely against it. But then, I gave in.
I've considered everything when it comes to helping Harrison to sleep, however many do fall on the list of things to avoid in order to reduce the chance of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). I won't deny it, but with deprivation can come desperation. I've considered co-sleeping, I've slept on the couch, I've wrapped him in warm blankets and I've now moved him into his own room before 6 months. Whilst I've also taken every precaution necessary to try and keep him as safe as possible, looking at the number of boxes I've managed to tick on the list of things NOT to do, it's easy for me to doubt myself and for others to judge my choices. Unfortunately though, for myself, and for many others, it's not as black and white as a list of do's and don'ts. When you have a baby who is getting little to no sleep at night and who won't nap during the day, the health implications are as worrying as the risk of SIDS. If your telling me that looking at a baby who has the heaviest of eyes, is agitated and won't take a bottle because of tiredness that you wouldn't consider co-sleeping, or letting them sleep on you while your sat on the couch, or continuing to swaddle past the recommended age, then your probably lying to yourself as much as you are to me.